You should get some help

I saw a news headline last week of a woman who threw her baby out of her window immediately she had her. She's been arrested and prosecuted. And I saw a lot of reaction about how terrible she must be for doing that. I get that.

However, I felt sorry for her. All I saw was a women who was ill. Someone who was probably depressed and had not even processed the reality of being a mother yet. Someone who had not yet comprehended that it was life growing inside of her and what she held in her hand after she had her. She just pulled the baby out of her, as though she had taken a shit, and yanked it out of a window. No sane person does that. Only someone who is out of their mind (literally) could. She did something absolutely terrible, but I think she needs psychological help.

It got me thinking of how much fear, pain and emotion we continue to suppress as parents. The fears we feel, the anxiety, the pains and all the other things that makes us go into a hole.

You don't have to be throwing babies off windows or any of those deadly stuffs before you accept that you need help.

• Don't bottle up these things you feel.

• Talk to a professional before it gets worse and start impacting your life negatively.

• Or you could journal. Pour your thoughts, fears, pain and all of it into a book. There's no judgement there, just an avenue to free your mind of those feelings.

• Join a support community where you will feel heard without judgement. You would also hear other mothers share their experiences so you know you are not alone. Umi has one. You should join us.

• Engage in activities that bring you joy and satisfaction. A treat for yourself.

• Exercise. Get loads of endorphins to make yourself feel good.

• Rest. I know I sound like a broken record, but you should get some rest now before your body force some rest on you.

• Surround yourself with a village of support that suits your need. There is no way you can do motherhood alone. So, don't even try. Let people help you.

• Whatever you do, do not let any negativity fester in your mind. They start small and then can become big that it seeps into every area of your life.