Self sabotage

I feel like we all have our versions of sabotaging ourselves in our lives. There's that point in time in your life where you have either procrastinated responding to an opportunity because you didn’t feel like you were qualified or ready for it, or you talked yourself into believing that it was out of your league or that they would never say 'yes' to you.

Self sabotage is undermining oneself - a deliberate attempt to convince yourself of not taking a step or making a decision that could ultimately be good for you. This is a reflection of confidence and self esteem.

For a lot of people, self sabotage is talking themselves into believing negative things about themselves. For some, it is deliberately missing a deadline just because .... or even abandoning a project the minute it starts to get intense.

Behind most people who sabotage themselves is a fear of disappointing their families, of falling short of an expectation they've set for themselves or even just the fear of the unknown. It can be very exhausting.

Well, that's no way to live.

There's no one who became great without having to take the leap regardless of the outcome. The day I got comfortable with hearing "No" was the day I started to really be bold about putting myself out there. The worst that can happen if you pursue an opportunity or take a leap of faith is for your request to be rejected. And that's okay. Rejection is usually a redirection. It's a good thing (even if it doesn’t look like it in the moment). At least you would have tried and learned.

So, how do you stop sabotaging yourself;

• Change your attitude towards failure. If you didn’t get a "yes". If the business doesn’t work out. It's fine. You will be okay. You really will be. And if it will succeed as well, you will need to begin somewhere.

• Confess positive things into your life. Find words that motivates you. Words that replaces the negative self talk that you have been doing over time. Let positive affirmations be a part of journey to transforming your life.

• Be deliberate about the company you keep. You are a reflection of the 5 closest people in your life. Think on that. Whoever you do not want influencing your decisions should not be that close to you.

• Make a plan. Make a list of the things you want to get done and begin to do them. You do not need any special thing before you start. All you need to do is START.
  
  We are grown. We are the background. We got kids who are looking to us for motivation and as their examples. It's time to get off the train of self sabotage and start living.