Overpampering your kids much?

Earlier, we did two posts on disciplining your kids. We advised against corporal punishment and proposed some alternatives to discipline them. And well, I know a lot of people were not pleased with our proposal for alternatives. Because beating has become the normal way to show to kids that they cannot get away with bad behaviours. So, when we said all that about corporal punishment, it felt like we were telling you to be lenient with your kids.

No one is saying that.

In fact, we strongly advise you to not over indulge your kids. For a lot of mothers, we either overindulge our kids because we do not want the children to embarrass us in public, we do not want the children to shout into our ears, we want our kids to be happy and wait for it...we want our kids to have a more pleasant experience in life than the ones we had.

These are all valid reasons. The children's screams can sometimes be annoying and if you are like me, I think I have suffered enough for my entire generation. So my children should not have to go through what I went through in life.

But that's not a good reason to spoil them. Research has shown that kids who were overindulged grow up to be entitled, selfish, obnoxious and badly behaved. Because they were not taught any form of boundary and they were not disciplined enough, they end up contributing nuisance in the society. That child then continues the cycle of ills in the society.