Forging love

Love is an intentional move. An investment into the future. And a very important one to make for the kids.

While I was single, one of the things that I was sure of was the fact that I will never be alone. Even when I gave up on getting married (for a little while), I knew that I would end in a loving relationship. Either with friends, intentional families and in whatever way it comes. I had this resolve as a consolation for every pain that I had gone through, every heartache, every beatdown and struggle that I had growing up. It was important to me that I find love and forge a loving community for myself. And I wasn’t going to settle. In love, I feel confident. When I feel loved, I know that I can get through whatever comes my way.

But it was also important for me to prepare myself to dish it out. If I wanted to feel loved, I knew I had to give love. I was convinced that whatever energy I put out is what comes back to me. And that began my process to be in the loving community that I am in right now, and with the absolute love of my life.

Love is so important for kids. It's a great foundation that parents can set for their kids to boost their self esteem and show them beautiful examples. When it is lacking, we all look for our own interpretation of it. Some forge it in healthy places while some go to any length to feel a glimpse of it.

You know what length you have had to go through to feel the love that you currently have right now.

So, the question is this: would you want your kids to forge the kind of love that you have right now or would you rather protect them from it?

Whatever it is, make your decision before it is too late; before your kids have the wrong portrayal of love based on what you've shown them.